Relationships: The place of perfection

I’m an advocate of the local church. Not because I’m a leader of one, but because I know the extreme value of the Church! There’s a stability, peace and focus I live with because of it. The early church apostle Paul knew what he was talking about when he said “forsake not the assembly of the brethren.” Don’t abandon the habit of coming together with other believers. Your life’s health depends on it!

No church is perfect. Just like no hospital is perfect. Or no job you work for is perfect. But that doesn’t mean it’s not beneficial. Many today are saying you don’t need to attend a church faithfully to walk in faith and be an effective follower of Jesus. But I don’t buy that. You can be technical all you want. But tell your wife or husband you don’t need to come home everyday to be married. Or tell your boss you don’t need to come to work to be a great employee. Or tell your professor you don’t need to come to school to be a great student. What you are forgetting is that relationships are not technical. Relationships are communal. Yes you will technically be married, but there’s no relationship. And what will that lead to? Divorce. Or yes you will be an employee technically…until you’re fired. So it only temporarily works. Here’s the big idea: Nothing can be perfected in your life without the formation of relationship!

Nothing can be perfected in your life without the formation of relationship!

To perfect your marriage, you need to get all up in your spouse! You need to become planted, deeply rooted. fully invested into. All options have been cut off. You need to become the one all of their emotional, sexual and companionship needs are met. If they begin to spend time with someone else to meet those needs, it is only a matter of time before there is a divorce.

With whom we spend time indicates more about where we are going than basically any other factor in life.

It’s no different for a believer and church life. Whenever I see a believer isolate or withdraw themselves from church life, I know they are not where they are supposed to be in God and if they don’t catch themselves quickly, they are heading to a backslidden state. I see it happen over an over again.

If you want to perfect your walk with God, you need to fellowship with others who have decided to walk with God with you!

That’s what Jesus did. He asked 12 to follow Him. That was His Church, His place of fellowship. Jesus understood the need for relationships! He ministered to thousands upon thousands of people out of the fellowship He had with His 12. He was the friend of sinners, yet His involvement with sinners was always around ministering to them, not seeing them as a source of fellowship. The source of your fellowship must always be other Christians walking in the light as you. If not you will be heading into trouble. It is psychologically verified that any one who goes back into an environment they once got treatment from without support, they will lose the progress they made.

1 John 4:12, “If we love one another, God dwells in us, and his love is perfected in us.”

The quality of your relationships is a reflection of the quality of your development in God!

God’s love is perfected or brought to maturity, accomplishing its goal in you as we love one another. Isn’t it amazing to know that we can affect the level of God’s love we experience in our own hearts by our willful intent to love other people? This is a wonderful promise. Isolating or withdrawing yourself from people is not godly or spiritual at all. You can deceive yourself all you want but the truth will always be this…In committed relationships, your love will be perfected.

5 benefits of of a local church

  1. This will be the place where your real spirituality will grow and develop.
  2. This will be the place where you will allow the love of God to be perfected in you.

  1. This is the place where people could be loved while they change, not just because they have changed

  2. This is the place to love and be made whole. It’s also the place to love others and make them whole.

  3. This is the best witnessing tool to show Christ to the world. People will believe we are of God and want what we have not when we have rid all imperfections, but when they see us loving one another in the face of our flaws.

DON’T abandon the LOCAL church!

“By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, If ye have love one to another.” John 13:35.

There will be nothing more challenging or demanding than a life committed to loving others. It will be in this committed lifestyle that we will grow in the love of God. Are you ready to have love perfected in you?

Listen to H4G podcast for the series “No Perfect People Allowed.”

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